It’s important to spend the first few weeks of a child’s life doing the things that are important.
A new addition to the family can be a testing time, especially if it’s your first child. There will be huge life changes for you and your partner over the next few months; some which you will adapt to quickly and others which will take you longer to come to terms with.
If you are about to have a baby or have just welcomed your new arrival to the world, there are a few survival tips you can use during the first few weeks to maintain sanity whilst also keeping family happy.
Don’t let everyone in put a note on the door
A friend once said that after the birth of his first child that he’d invited all his family around for a meal three hours after his partner had arrived home from hospital. He soon realised he’d made a drastic mistake and the experience led to him being constantly chastised by friends who’d also recently had children.
Having a child is amazing, but it’s also really hard and will change your way of life considerably. Instead of having to look after yourself, all-of-a-sudden there’s someone else to look after too. A wonderful person who will make your heart fill with joy but also a person who will be demanding, attention seeking and who’ll be awake throughout the night.
In the first few days after your little-one’s birth a good idea is to literally shut down all contact with friends and family, except perhaps those members who will help rather than coo. And one of the great ways to do this is to place a note to the door which simply says that you are not having guests at the moment and they should call back later. You’ll never get the first few days of your child’s life back again so it’s important that you spend it with the people that matter.
Get help tell people how they can make a difference
You’ll need all the help you can get during the first few months of your child’s life so take any help that is offered be careful though. Many people will offer help but will rarely come through with the goods and will simply leave you with a lot of washing up when they leave. If someone comes round to visit, don’t let them coo over the baby while you do the washing, ironing or the dishes. Get them to do the jobs while you look after the baby, this goes for grandparents too. They’ll want to spend time with the little one, which is normal, but you need to be strict if you want some realistic help.
If you don’t tell people how they can help many will simply think they are helping and won’t do the jobs that need to be done, such as changing the bed sheets or nipping to the shops to pick up some bread and milk. Be bold and be firm, the first few weeks of a new child’s life are a special time, don’t let anyone spoil them.