We’ve all seen those stories in the newspapers about houses which get wrecked after a teenage party gets out of hand. The word spreads on social media such as Facebook or Twitter, and a small gathering of 20 teenagers quickly turns into a mob of 200, intent on causing as much damage as possible. It’s every parent’s nightmare, so how do you stop your child’s next party from becoming front page news?
Stay in the House
Yes, if you suggest that you’re going to stay when a teenage party is going on, your teen will most likely be horrified by the suggestion and claim that you’re the most embarrassing parents on the planet. But what’s worse, having a moody teen for a few days or coming back to a trashed house? Make it clear that you will be around, monitoring what is going on and who is coming and going, but that you will stay in an upstairs room or well out of sight of the main party. Also make it clear that your presence is non-negotiable.
Keep an Eye on Facebook
Many parents insist that if their children are using Facebook or Twitter that they add parents as friends on the site. Log into Facebook regularly and check what is being said about the party and who is chatting about it. By all means allow your teenager to set up an event listing for the party to make discussions easier, but ensure the listing is private and can only be viewed by people who are invited to join and who your teenager actually knows. Problems start when teenagers invite hundreds of people who they don’t really know, or when the event can be viewed by anyone who has a Facebook account.
Move the Valuables
Accidents happen at even the most restrained parties, and if you have expensive items of oak furniture, paintings or ornaments which are irreplaceable, move them to an upstairs, preferably locked room before the party begins. Make it clear to your teenager that they are responsible for what happens at their party, and if behaviour starts to get out of hand, it is up to them to come and get you so you can put a stop to it immediately. Do not hesitate to get the Police involved if you find deep gouges in your oak furniture or damage to fixtures and fittings in the home.
Set a Time Limit
Be realistic, and negotiate a time for the party to end with your teenager. They will probably be pitching for an all-night party finishing with you making bacon rolls for their mates the following morning, but this isn’t realistic if you have close neighbours who will be disturbed by the noise. Speak to other parents about what you think is an appropriate time, and this will also depend on the age of the people attending and what day of the week the party is being held. Once the deadline arrives, switch off the music, turn on the lights, thank everyone for coming and politely ask them to leave.
Guest article by L. Keen. Keen was inspired to write this article for home owners after reading an article in her local newspaper about the victim of an out of control and unauthorised house party. Rest assured, if you’re unlucky enough to suffer at the hands of party revellers, you can find Oak furniture at resonable prices online from retailers such as National Furniture.