You are not alone if you are a parent who hates the idea of parents’ evening, in fact most parents and teachers share the same dread about the night. Everyone wants to hear about how well their child is doing at school and no one wants to know that their child is nothing but a nuisance but sometimes it is these negatives that have to be accepted. Parents’ evening is not just about your child though, there are some things that you should do in order to help them in their development so remember these tips when it comes to parents’ evening and forget about the fears that you have about the occasion.
Preparation is key when it comes to this dreaded night; a lot of parents choose not to talk to their children about where they’re going and why but this is a mistake. If you make an effort to talk to your child – no matter how old they are – about their favourite subjects, their worst and where they think they’re doing well you will hopefully be preventing any surprises. As well as asking them about their subjects you could also ask whether there is anything that they think they would like you to talk to the teacher about like bullying in the playground etc. Sometimes a child may not feel comfortable going to a teacher on their own and they may not even tell you of any problems if you don’t ask.
Although you don’t want to hear someone criticising your child you shouldn’t go to a parents’ evening with a negative mind set. Going to parents’ evening feeling positive will not only make you feel less nervous but it will put your child’s teacher at ease as well. Don’t forget that although you don’t want to hear that your child isn’t working to their full potential the teacher really won’t want to tell you that either. If there is any criticism of your child’s behaviour or progress then take it on the chin, ask how you can help and remember that as soon as you know about the problem it’s easy to nip it in the bud quickly.
If the teacher does report bad behaviour then it needs to be tackled right away. If the teacher says that your child is behaving badly then this is not intended as a reflection on you, they tell you so that you can both work together to help your child. If there’s anything going on at home that could be influencing your child’s behaviour then you should make the teacher aware of it but you should also ask why they think your child is being naughty and whether it’s all the time or just on one or two classes.