Whenever there is a problem at hand, there are two ways of getting ready to solve it. One, you could wait for the problem to happen and then find a solution for it. Alternatively, you could anticipate that a problem may happen and be ready for it with the necessary tools and solution boxes.
With the first way of doing things, you probably save some time and money. Unless the problem actually becomes a reality, you have no expenses whatsoever. This sounds clever and from a short term perspective, seems profitable. Unfortunately, when a problem does strike, finding a solution when under duress is not something that is possible for everybody. Such an attitude towards problem solving is definitely not going to cut when it comes to family disputes.
A family is the basis of the entire society on which our lives are built. Your family and your neighbour’s family and work colleague family could be differently structured. For instance, you could be living with your spouse and no one else. In your neighbour’s case, they could be in a live-in partnership. Alternatively someone else could be living as part of a joint family.
Then there are so many assets that are part of every member of the family. There will be family estates, vehicles, and investments, gold and so on. Sometimes these assets as a whole will need to be divided among the family members. There are times when this happens peacefully and there will be times when it does not. When it comes to children, if they are not yet adults, then there is the discussion of custody and who gets to spend how much time with whom.
All of these disputes can get very complicated, and add in divorce scenarios and the situation only goes from bad to worse.
Managing Family Problems
A lot of people think of speaking to family lawyer when any of the above scenarios become real. Nobody wants to prepare ahead of time by engaging a family lawyer ahead of time.
When you really think about it, this behaviour is not surprising. Engaging a family lawyer when there are no problems is almost like an admission that you expect things to go downhill. While this may be one way of looking at it, another way of looking at it is that you appreciate the reality of life that things may go wrong. This way, you are being prepared for it, as against hoping that things will not go wrong.
Perhaps the best example is the pre-nuptial agreement that a lot of married couples get into. Everybody that we know of, gets married so that they can spend the entire lifetime together. At the same time, real data does not lie. More than half the marriages end up in divorce these days and the divorce rate keeps increasing every year. This being the case there is no harm in having this document ready in case the relationship should ever break down.
When you want to prepare yourself for both good and bad times, having a family lawyer signed up to help you is in fact the smart thing to do.
Whenever there is a family dispute over some asset or investment or child, there is no rule of book which claims that it has to be resolved by a lengthy court battle. In fact, many resolutions can be arrived by doing the most sensible thing.
When two parties are engaged in a dispute, a point will be reached when they cannot see eye to eye on anything. In such scenarios it is difficult to imagine that either party is looking at any sort of win-win scenarios. It has been always, I win You lose, scenarios that come to the mind. Human emotions like bitterness and anger play a huge role in this. When emotions are running and ruining the surface, it is best to let the experts do all the negotiations.
Those negotiation experts are family lawyers. When there is a dispute, speak to your family lawyer. The family lawyer, as a complete third party will separate the facts from fiction. He can see clearly where for you and the disputing partner, everything looks distorted. This opportunity to see things as they are, helps the lawyer to come up with solutions that don’t need legal intervention.
While it may sound exciting to go ahead and settle your differences in the court of law, the truth is, it is not half as fun as it appears on the television. You will be spending a lot of time as well as the precious money battling it out. Don’t do that. Get a family lawyer and see if things can be resolved in a more convenient way.